Rabbanim, psychiatrists, psychologists, mental health professionals, heads of mental health organizations, community leaders, and many more are joining together to support victims of sexual abuse
It is the responsibility of our community to eradicate evil from our midst. We as a community are responsible for defending and protecting victims. Victims are never responsible for protecting abusers..
"It is incumbent upon us to act G-Dly and stand with the victims, those who have been traumatized, attacked and assaulted."
"Whomsoever wishes that his sons and daughters be raised in the path of Torah and fear of Heaven, should not retain any of his books"
By: Rabbi Yair Hoffman for 5tjt.com
Seven and a half years ago, we created Amudim with a mission: to give a voice to the victims of sexual abuse and eradicate stigmas so that those who had been victimized could get the help...
Shifra was a victim of the vicious, pernicious, and malicious monster whose name I shall not utter.
Ms. Horowitz committed suicide ...
By: Rav Ron Yitzchok Eisenmann
The Chaim Walder saga that has unfolded over the past weeks has created upheaval across the Jewish world, as it must. Walder was one of those profoundly...
By: Rabbi Moshe Hauer
It can be extremely difficult for survivors to come forward and share their story. They may feel ashamed, concerned that they won’t be believed, or worried they’ll be blamed. Leave any “why” questions or investigations to the experts—your job is to support this person. Be careful not to interpret calmness as a sign that the event did not occur—everyone responds to traumatic events differently. The best thing you can do is to believe them.
Let the survivor know that you are there for them and willing to listen to their story if they are comfortable sharing it. Assess if there are people in their life they feel comfortable going to, and remind them that there are service providers who will be able to support them as they heal from the experience.
Survivors may blame themselves, especially if they know the perpetrator personally. Remind the survivor, maybe even more than once, that they are not to blame.
Acknowledge that the experience has affected their life. Phrases like “This must be really tough for you,” and, “I’m so glad you are sharing this with me,” help to communicate empathy.
It can be difficult to watch a survivor struggle with the effects of sexual assault for an extended period of time. Avoid phrases that suggest they’re taking too long to recover such as, “You’ve been acting like this for a while now,” or “How much longer will you feel this way?”
You can be a supporter, but that doesn’t mean you’re equipped to manage someone else’s health. Become familiar with resources you can recommend to a survivor, such as therapists and mental health professionals.