Shana* has three children. Her youngest, Tsachi,* is 15.

Like many parents, Shana and her husband work full time with the hope of giving their children opportunities they did not have growing up. They try to make thoughtful decisions rooted in care and values. But when a series of small concerns began to add up, Shana found herself pausing to ask a difficult question:

Were the choices they were making, out of love and good intention, truly helping their son?

Tsachi had always been on the quieter side. As he entered high school, Shana noticed how much he wanted to fit in socially. Although she and her husband were hesitant to give him a smartphone, they eventually agreed after learning that most of Tsachi’s classmates had one. With careful monitoring, they hoped it could be a tool for connection - a way for him to feel less isolated and more included.

Over time, however, things began to feel off.

Shana noticed unfamiliar charges on her credit card tied to online games. She also began receiving alerts that Tsachi was playing late at night, including on Friday nights. What initially felt like a small compromise now felt harder to manage. Shana grew concerned about the impact this was having - not only emotionally, but spiritually and within the family’s boundaries.

Unsure how to intervene without pushing her son further away, Shana reached out to Amudim for guidance.

She shared her concerns about Tsachi’s social anxiety and wondered whether there were healthier ways to help him build confidence and a sense of belonging. Together with a case manager, Shana explored alternatives that could draw on his interests and creativity. Tsachi had always dreamed of playing the drums, though apartment living made that unrealistic. A guitar felt like a practical option - a creative outlet that could offer structure, expression, and something meaningful to focus on beyond screens.

The case manager also provided referrals to therapists experienced in working with teenage boys and helped Shana think through how to approach these conversations as a parent. Shana chose to begin therapy herself, hoping to gain clarity and confidence before inviting her son into the process.

Today, Shana feels supported knowing she does not have to navigate these challenges alone. She has guidance, resources, and a place to turn as she continues parenting a sensitive teen in a complex world.

If you or someone you love is struggling, please don’t hesitate to reach out.
Amudim is just a phone call away - and here to help.

*Names have been changed to protect privacy.