Parenting has never been easy, but there is no doubt that in recent years, the job has become a whole lot more challenging.
That was a reality that Malky* found out a few weeks ago, when her 14 year old son *Alex approached her hesitantly one night while she was cleaning up the kitchen and doing her best to get to sleep at a semi-reasonable hour. It was clear from look on Alex’s face that something was very, very wrong with her oldest, leaving Malky with the task of figuring out what the problem was and what to do about it. If you have ever dealt with a teenager, let alone a teenage son, you know how hard that job can be.
Figuring that a face to face conversation would be that much more difficult, Malky asked Alex if he wanted to go out for Slurpees. Driving to their local 7-11, Malky asked Alex what was on his mind, and eventually it all came out. He had seen something on the internet that was very much not rated PG and was having trouble coming to terms with the encounter. It was an awkward conversation for both mother and son but Malky dealt with the incident the best way she knew how and driving home with their Slurpees, Alex seemed more at ease than he had been just half an hour earlier.
While Alex went off to bed with a lighter heart, Malky’s head was reeling, stunned by what had happened and wondering if she had handled things appropriately. Instead of second guessing herself, Malky reached out to Amudim the next day, telling one of our case workers the entire story and wanting to know if she had said and done the right things. The case manager was able to empathize with Malky, praising her for having given her son the responsible answers and also providing much needed support and guidelines about internet safety to avoid future problems.
Sometimes callers have questions that, thankfully, aren’t about life and death situations. Sometimes people just need to hear that reassuring voice encouraging them, educating them, and patiently helping navigate the often murky waters of parenting in 2019. Give us a call anytime – we are always here.
*Some details changed to protect client confidentiality