Confronting Grief

June 11, 2021

Dear Amudim Family,

The loss of a loved one can hit hard and have ripple effects that don’t just disappear on their own. But having someone to help guide a person through the stages of grief and recovery can make all the difference in helping him or her move past it and create a happy life for the future.

Shira* is a bright, caring, and sensitive 29 year-old. Tragically, around ten years ago, her older brother passed away suddenly in a car accident, and Shira has never been the same. While she had just entered the world of shidduchim, after the accident, Shira couldn’t bring herself to resume dating. She constantly thought about death and loss and was scared to forge close relationships with people over the fear that she might lose them as well. As the years passed, Shira felt unable to shake off her feelings of depression surrounding her brother’s death; and she stopped dating entirely and retreated into a protected and guarded internal space.

Fortunately, Shira’s sister realized what was happening and called Amudim with her concerns and was directed to one of our case managers. He explained that Shira had likely never properly processed the grief over her brother’s death nor learned coping tools to help her move on. The case manager advised Shira’s sister on ways to encourage Shira to reach out.

When Shira finally called, and she cried about feeling “stuck” and her desire to just “get over it” but not having the “inner strength” to do so. Her case manager explained the need for proper grief therapy so that Shira could have a place to open up about what had occurred, process it in a healthy way, and learn how to move on to a happier state of mind. We referred Shira to an appropriate therapist in her area and continued to follow up.

Several months later and continuing with her weekly sessions, Shira is making progress in therapy and feels ready to test her luck again in the dating world. We are confident that with continued support and love, Shira has hopes for a bright and healthy future.

If you or someone you know is struggling, contact us anytime.

*Names and details have been changed for privacy purposes.

WEEK ENDING: June 11, 2021
238 New Amudim Cases Opened This Week

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