Addiction and Dating

January 22, 2021

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Dating and the journey for finding one’s life partner can be a joyful yet overwhelming and nerve wracking time. And when unexpected issues arise, knowing what to do and how to decide are not simple feats. But armed with accurate knowledge and the right support, the perils of dating can be overcome and an outcome for a happy future more readily assured.
A while back, Zahava* reached out to us with questions about addiction. She was dating a young man, Isaac*, who had informed her after several dates that he was a recovering alcohol addict.. Zahava liked this man but was concerned and called Amudim with his story and seeking more information.
She told her case manager that Isaac had been a troubled youth who went to rehab when he was 18. He got sober and had never touched a drink since; it was over five years since he had begun recovery.
Our case manager advised Zahava that individuals in active recovery are motivated to constantly work on themselves and to help those around them. They have a strong spiritual connection and are committed to growth. And while Isaac cannot drink wine under the chuppah or at any future simchas, the benefits of being with such a man far outweigh that loss.
Zahava was interested and wanted to know more; we suggested that she and Isaac see a rav who is also an experienced addiction therapist to help them navigate the questions and struggles of marrying someone in recovery. Our case manager referred her to someone we have worked with countless times who could provide the proper guidance. We also connected Zahava with a woman who had experienced a similar situation so that she could speak with her for empathetic peer support.
Baruch HaShem, we were overjoyed when we received a recent update that after three years of marriage, the couple just had a healthy baby boy. The family is doing very well.
Knowledge is power, and keeping an open mind while seeking out the right information and tools can make all the difference.
If you or someone you know is struggling or needs support or guidance towards proper resources, please don’t hesitate to call. Amudim is here.

WEEK ENDING: January 22, 2021
148 New Amudim Cases Opened This Week

Each week, Amudim fields calls covering a wide range of crises and addressing various human concerns, including addiction, depression, abuse, health and domestic emergencies and many others. We track the calls and breakdown of issues for many reasons, foremost of which is to consistently improve and strengthen our knowledge and ability to address community’s needs.


Guidelines and Information
Since the beginning of the pandemic, Amudim has assisted hundreds of community members with arranging safe emergency travel to Israel, primarily for funerals and medical-related matters, as well as for students. We have updated our website to provide details and guidelines for all types of travel to Israel.
Please click this link, where we have included as much relevant and current information as possible, including the necessary forms, requirements, and the contact person to speak to directly for emergencies. Read More


Dear Friends,
Hey everyone. This is a big day for me. The beginning of my new album.
I spent the past 5 years writing and rewriting this song. “Whole With You” was originally titled “Broken People”, which was all about my surrender to the existential loneliness I experienced for many years. Identifying with that experience and seeing that in others made me feel less alone.
But I still couldn’t finish the song.
Until I realized that as long as this song was only about me and my pain, I would never WANT to finish it.
I thank my mentor Abie Rotenberg for pushing me to give people hope and not let my Verse dictate my Chorus. Abie, you forgot to tell me that in order to write that way I had to find a deep hope in myself. Thank you.
A special thank you to my close friend Israel Schachter, CEO of CharityBids for supporting me and pushing me to finish this song and video in honor of Amudim, an organization that cares so much for the people in our community that no-one else has the courage to take care of.
This song is my Tefillah:
May we all realize how much we need to be there for each other, especially during these turbulent times.
It feels like the perfect time in history to remind myself that:
We Are Whole
This marks the first song on my new album coming this year!
Looking forward to a Music filled 2021!