Dangerous Thoughts

June 4, 2021

Dear Amudim Family,

Reaching out for help when a loved one is suffering is a brave step. But sometimes in doing so, we uncover deeper issues that would never otherwise emerge. And in doing so, we are fortunate enough to gain a full picture of what exactly needs to be resolved.

Ira* called Amudim concerned about his wife’s depression and suicidal ideation. He mentioned his wife’s inability to get out of bed and the struggle to keep up with housework and childcare. He was seeking a referral for a psychiatrist and therapist as well as guidance on how to navigate their ‘new normal.’

Eventually, Ira’s wife agreed to speak with our case manager, which included a full risk assessment and suicide screening. The case manager found referrals for his wife and explained that she would regularly follow up while Ira’s wife was in treatment. Everything seemed to be improving as Ira felt relief that his wife was getting the appropriate help.

Ira continued to share updates on his wife’s progress. He said that some days were better than others and disclosed more about his wife’s behavior and their relationship. She often berates him and states that she is acting this way because he is a bad husband. She has forbidden Ira from revealing anything about their personal life to family and has threatened to harm herself if he does.

As the case manager began looking at the family unit, she realized that this was not just about a husband navigating his wife’s depression but an unsafe marriage. Ira’s wife appears to suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder. People with this diagnosis tend to gaslight and manipulate their partners into thinking they are the ones at fault until they lose their voice and self-trust.

Our case manager shifted direction and referred Ira to a top psychologist who specializes in husbands who are victims of domestic abuse. Ira has begun work with his therapist and Amudim to help regain his voice and sense of self-worth so that he can heal and decide how to move forward in his marriage.

If you or someone you know is struggling, you are not alone, contact us anytime.

*Names and details have been changed for privacy purposes.

WEEK ENDING: June 4, 2021
195 New Amudim Cases Opened This Week

Each week, Amudim fields calls covering a wide range of crises and addressing various human concerns, including addiction, depression, abuse, health and domestic emergencies and many others. We track the calls and breakdown of issues for many reasons, foremost of which is to consistently improve and strengthen our knowledge and ability to address community’s needs.

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On Monday evening in Jerusalem, we had our second (of three) mental health workshops for rebbeim from the Syrian yeshivas. This week’s workshop focused on mood & personality disorders, presented by Dr. Shmuel Harris. Next week’s workshop will be led by Rabbi Volvey Rand.