They say that grandchildren are G-d’s gift for growing older. But the sacrifices and unconditional love of parenting must come first. And even when people make seemingly irreparable mistakes, it’s never too late to attempt fixing them to find peace for oneself and one’s family.
Aviva*, a 25 year-old mother of two, called Amudim after a friend suggested that we might be able to help. After having grown up with a verbally and emotionally abusive mother, Aviva just wanted to escape; she worried that allowing her mother to come back into her life and spend time with her grandchildren would trigger too many traumatic memories.
Yet Aviva yearned for her sons to know their grandmother, and for her mother to know them, although she believed that any chance for repairing her relationship with her mother was long gone.
Aviva finally called Amudim for help with therapy as she knew it was time to deal with her past, to heal for herself and her family. Our case manager connected Aviva with a therapist who she has seen consistently for the past three years. While she often felt frustrated that things weren’t improving as fast as she wished they could, Aviva’s case manager was there for her at every step of the way, encouraging her and providing support as needed. With time, Aviva learned to be patient with herself and the therapeutic process. She is still in therapy as there is much that needs to be addressed; however, Aviva has started seeing significant shifts in emotional triggers from her past, and she is now able to visit her mother who has joined for some sessions. Healing takes time, but consistency in therapy and the ongoing support of Aviva’s case manager has been tremendously helpful in Aviva’s journey.
When we are able to help families find their way past their struggles and reconnect, it makes all of our efforts worthwhile. Please don’t hesitate to call Amudim if you need support.