Dear Amudim Family,
Sara* and her husband, Eli* moved to Houston looking for an “out of town” environment in which they could build their home and feel like they were making a meaningful contribution to the Torah presence in their community. To that end, Sara took a job teaching Judaic studies in the afternoon at the local yeshiva. The months passed by, daily life felt more relaxed, and the couple was content.
Yet over time, Sara noticed her husband spending more time on the computer, and she instinctively felt that something was wrong. Motzei Shabbosim were a weekly trigger as Eli viewed them as his time to relax. He would sit watching sports or browsing the web for hours at a time. Eventually, Sara realized that her husband was struggling with a pornography addiction. She felt alone and unsure of how to navigate being the wife of an addict and feeling a shift in her marriage. Having seen an ad for Amudim in a community newspaper, Sara reached out to share her story with a case manager, who listened to her story with sympathy and no judgment. Our case manager suggested that Sara meet with a therapist who could help her cope with her new reality. After listening to Sara describe the type of provider with whom she would be most comfortable based on demographics and personality, our case manager immediately thought of a wonderful multi-state licensed clinician we’ve worked with in the past who operates on the east coast. And while the physical distance might normally pose a challenge, due to covid, the guidelines regarding seeing patients both virtually or from out of state have become more common. We arranged for Sara to connect with the therapist, and within two weeks, she emailed her case manager, thanking her for making the “shidduch”; Sara feels that it is a truly great fit. She has continued in therapy and thankfully, Eli just started a 12 step addiction program with a sponsor. He attends weekly meetings and is in individual counseling as well. With time and guidance, we hope that their path towards individual recovery and healing their marriage will continue and thrive.
If you or someone you know is struggling, contact us anytime.
*Names and details have been changed for privacy purposes.
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