TALKING TO YOUR CHILD ABOUT ADDICTION
Having a conversation with your child about addiction is not easy—but it’s one of the most important steps you can take to protect their wellbeing.
When you talk openly and honestly, you give your child the tools to make safer, healthier choices. Whether you’re discussing your own family’s experience or preparing them for peer pressure, these conversations create a foundation of trust and support.
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Choose the Right Time and Place
Create a calm, private space where your child feels comfortable and safe. Choose a moment when you can talk without distractions or time pressure, so they know this conversation matters.
Be Honest and Open
Use clear, age-appropriate language to explain what addiction is and how it can affect someone’s body, mind, and relationships. Avoid scare tactics—truthful, compassionate communication builds trust.
Focus on Health and Wellbeing
Help your child understand how addiction can impact physical and mental health. Frame the conversation around self-care, healthy choices, and overall wellbeing.
Encourage Questions
Let your child know they can ask anything—now or in the future. Answer honestly, and without judgment. This helps create an ongoing dialogue instead of a one-time talk.
Set Clear Boundaries
Explain your family’s values and rules when it comes to substance use. Be clear about expectations and consequences, and make sure your child knows those rules come from love and concern.
Discuss Peer Pressure
Equip your child with tools to recognize and resist peer pressure. Roleplay responses, and let them know it’s okay to say no—even when it’s hard.
Use Personal Stories (When Appropriate)
If you or someone you know has experienced addiction, sharing that story—at the right moment and in the right way—can make the topic feel more real and relatable.
Be a Role Model
Children learn by watching. Be mindful of your own behaviors and attitudes toward substances. Your example has a lasting impact.
Stay Informed and Empowered
The more you understand about addiction, the more confident you’ll feel answering questions and guiding your child. Keep learning so you can lead with facts and compassion.
Let Them Know They’re Not Alone
Remind your child that they can come to you with anything. Let them know that if they—or someone they care about—is struggling, there is help, and there is hope.
Seek Professional Support When Needed
If your family is directly impacted by addiction, don’t go it alone. Therapists and counselors who specialize in addiction can help guide these conversations and provide critical support.
Talking about addiction is not a one-time conversation—it’s a lifelong dialogue. Keep communication open, and make sure your child always knows they can turn to you.
If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, you’re not alone.
Help is available.
Responding to a Student’s Death by Suicide:
A Guide for School Administrators
The Torah commands the mitzvah to learn, through the words vishinantem livanecha, we must teach our children. The primary responsibility for being mechanech and educating our children falls on the parents. The school system exists to support this goal. As partners with parents and the family structure, the school administration should seek guidance from and work together with the affected family in any crisis situation. This resource aims to provide support and guidance in fostering such a partnership with empathy and care. We hope to see a day when we will no longer need such resources, amen.
The loss of a student to suicide is a deeply complex event that affects the entire school community. A structured and compassionate response is critical in ensuring appropriate support for students, staff, and families.
Amudim, a nonprofit dedicated to crisis intervention and mental health support, created this resource to help school administrators, educators, and crisis response teams navigate both immediate and long-term challenges.
While focused on suicide-related crises, this guide can be adapted for any tragic event affecting students by adjusting specific details.
Developed with Expert Guidance
This guide was developed in collaboration with leading mental health professionals, crisis response experts, and educators who specialize in suicide prevention and postvention strategies. Our approach is informed by research-based methodologies and best practices from organizations such as:
The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP)
The National Association of School Psychologists (NASP)
The Suicide Prevention Resource Center (SPRC)
Amudim’s Crisis Response Team
Licensed mental health professionals specializing in trauma and bereavement
Designed as a practical framework rather than a substitute for clinical care, this guide provides clear steps for communication, student and staff support, and fostering a culture of mental health awareness and suicide prevention.
Death by suicide is one of the leading causes of death among young people in the United States. It significantly impacts adolescents, with many experiencing suicidal thoughts, making plans, or attempting suicide.
Prevalence of Suicidal Thoughts and Behaviors:
Source: 2022 NSDUH
22.3% of high school students seriously considered attempting suicide in 2022.
10.2% of high school students attempted suicide in 2022.
Suicide Rates Among Youth:
Source: CDC
Death by suicide was the second-leading cause of death for individuals aged 10 to 34 in 2021.
In 2021, death by suicide was the third leading cause of death among U.S. high school youth (ages 14–18), with 1,952 recorded deaths, a rate of 9.0 per 100,000 youth.
Underreporting of Death by Suicide:
Source: American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
Death by suicide is often underreported, as some cases may be classified as unintentional or accidental deaths due to unclear circumstances.
Impact on School Communities:
The death by suicide of school personnel or family members can profoundly affect children and adolescents, increasing their risk of distress, grief-related trauma, and suicidal ideation.
These statistics highlight the urgent need for suicide prevention programs, mental health education, and accessible crisis intervention within schools and communities. Schools play a crucial role in identifying at-risk students, fostering open conversations about mental health, and ensuring support systems are in place to prevent further tragedies.
For immediate help, the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7 for those in crisis.
Immediate Next Steps: Activating the School Crisis Team
As with any death or other crisis event, the school crisis team should be activated after a suicide has occurred.
Verify all information with the family before making any announcements, ensuring accuracy and sensitivity. Follow the family’s wishes regarding what details to share and how to communicate them, respecting their guidance on public dissemination.
Notify the school crisis team. Assign responsibilities and ensure that mental health professionals are available.
Prepare staff before notifying students. Hold a meeting with teachers to ensure a unified message.
Communicate with students appropriately. Provide a clear, factual message, avoiding graphic details or speculation.
Avoid sensationalism. Suicide should not be glorified in any way that might make it appear as an appealing option for distressed students.
Provide access to mental health resources. Ensure students know where to seek support and make professionals available.
Monitor at-risk students. Pay particular attention to close friends, students with prior suicide attempts, and those who exhibit emotional distress.
Communicate with parents. Send a letter home with clear information on the school’s response and available support services.
Reach out to external support services. Organizations like Amudim, Chai Lifeline (Rabbi Fox), and Ohel (Norman Blumenthal) can provide crisis intervention.
Notifying Staff Before Students:
Conduct a staff meeting before school begins.
Ensure all teachers and faculty receive the same accurate information.
Allow staff to ask questions and express concerns.
It is important to allow teachers and other school personnel to ask questions and voice concerns before they face students.
Openly discussing the death by suicide sends the message that it is “ok” to talk about the topic.
For example, when addressing school personnel, the leader of the crisis team may say, “there has been a death by suicide of one of our students, (Student Name).” Then insert facts as they are known but omit graphic details.
Prepare staff to respond to student questions appropriately.
If a teacher does not feel able to talk to his/her students about the death by suicide, another faculty member should be available to assist.
Addressing Students:
Share the news in small, naturally occurring groups (e.g., homeroom, advisory periods).
Avoid large assemblies or public announcements.
Every effort should be made to ensure that all students are present at the time this information is shared so all students receive the same information simultaneously.
Use direct language:
“We are deeply saddened to share that [Student Name] has died. We know that some of you may be struggling with this news, and we want to ensure that everyone has the support they need.”
Avoid phrases like “committed suicide” (which implies wrongdoing); instead, use “died by suicide.”
Include information about the availability of mental health and support services and how students may access these services